Yeah, hi guys, how you doing? My name is Dan Ashendorf and welcome to this video which is hopefully gonna be one of many or one of a few really depending, not sure yet. But what I wanted to talk to you guys about today is just … It sort of come up because I was writing an email to my subscribers which I do pretty much on a daily basis and the theme of the email was about mindsets. As you’ve probably seen from the featured, even, video which I’m not sure it’s up yet but it will be up very, very soon. I run a pretty successful company. We’ve got Amazon sales, we’ve got Shopify stores, I do internet marketing so I’ve got a feel in marketing. So we run, it’s in excess of $1 million.
There’s a lot of work and there’s a lot of stress. I mean, I do outsource the majority of it, but still, running a company for yourself can be a little bit stressful and the email that I was writing yesterday was all about how to get, or how to have, the right mindset. So I just wanted to tell you a little trick that I use and this is hopefully gonna put you in a good stead if you’re struggling with mindset or, you know, you’re sort of working for yourself and things aren’t going the way that they should or as good as you’d hoped them to, and such and so on and so forth.
So let me just begin by … This is not gonna be some, you know, airy fairy, sort of set of rules that no one can implement about doing two hours meditation a day or anything like that. It’s just not gonna be one of these but … I don’t know if you’ve read Stephen R. Covey’s 7 Habits of Effective People. I think that’s the name of the book, but I don’t know if you’ve read it. The most important one, and that’s his rule number one, is to be proactive. No what he means by being proactive is to basically choose your emotions, choose your response to any outside impetus that is taking place. So it’s the way that we choose to interpret things that really determined how things are gonna pan out. You know, the results we’re gonna have, because what might seem like a negative situation to one person might seem like an opportunity to another.
All right, so how do we get into this mindset? Be cayuse I think it’s easier said than done. I think when things go bad and we get angry or we get jealous or we get into any number of many negative emotions that we all face during the day, you know, how do we overcome that? How do we come out of that groove and into something that’s more positive? And, so, the way to do that is through something that’s called mindfulness. Now, you probably know about mindfulness and it’s kind of associated with getting into, you know, sort of doing meditation and all that sort of stuff and thinking about the moment and so out and so forth, but I just find that to be a little bit too intrusive and it takes too long. I don’t have time to meditate 10 times a day.
So what I do when I get to sort of a bad emotion is obviously first of all is to recognise that things are turning bad, you know, I am somewhere that I don’t want to be which happens to all of us. I know it and I see it all around me all the time. And then to basically just kind of visualise something that’s gonna take me away from that situation, so it’s almost like a kind of ready-made mindfulness sort of situation that I take myself into. So thinking about a stream of water for example, or thinking about the night sky and the very large universe out there which makes us all very insignificant, and then just having that thought inside my head for maybe 5 to 10 seconds, even 20 seconds, and then counting down completely oblivious to anything else that’s going on.
So it’s almost like kind of self-hypnosis for 20, 30 seconds, okay? Just thinking about that, just thinking about that one thing, completely being removed from anything else that’s going around me. Obviously you don’t want to be doing it when you’re driving. Guys and girls, you don’t want to be doing it when you’re driving or doing something sensitive like working, or operating any heavy machinery, anything like that.
But as soon as you’re not in that situation, you just kind of remove yourself from anything else and you get into this kind of meditative state and you do that, just count down, or you count up to maybe 20, 30 seconds or even more if you can, but the really important thing is to not think about anything else that is going on. Just completely remove yourself from the problem and completely concentrate on that stream of water or the night sky or whatever. Just a tree with leaves moving in the wind, okay? Just do that for 5, 10, 20 seconds and then gradually go back to the day-to-day and you will see just an absolutely amazing difference in the way that things look and you will be removed from your bad mindset and onto some sort of a really good, real groove, okay? And that is the way to keep in control of my emotions and then keep true to Stephen R. Covey’s first rule of highly effective people.
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